
If you’re done being a bystander to injustice, get your copy of Are We Done Yet? to turn your empathy into action and get 25% off the first AWDY cohort. Drop your email below to be among the first to read the book and join the cohort. You’ll immediately receive your link to your inbox, be sure to check your promotion and spam folder.


If you’re done being a bystander to injustice, pre-order Are We Done Yet? to turn your empathy into action and get 25% off the first AWDY cohort. Drop your email below to be among the first to read the book and join the cohort. You’ll immediately receive your pre-order link to your inbox, be sure to check your promotion and spam folder.
Are We Done Yet? is the book I built from 40 years of learning how to close the gap between what I believed and how I lived. It hands you the framework, language, and daily practice to start becoming the change the world needs.
A complete framework with a 6 step daily practice you can apply to any charged moment
Reflection exercises at the end of every chapter that take the work out of theory and anchor it in your specific life, relationships, and recurring patterns
Practical tools and language for the conversations you have been avoiding and the boundaries you have been struggling to hold
Honest personal stories from years of closing this gap myself, including the moments I
got it wrong
A complete arc that takes you from recognizing the problem to becoming someone whose presence changes the rooms they walk into
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This book gives you knowledge while the cohort creates the way you operate under pressure. Over 10 weeks, the BREATH Process shifts from understanding to embodiment within a circle of people who hold each other accountable. Start the shift from bystander to steady responder through:
Weekly live sessions conducted online with teaching followed by group practice
3 structured and guided phases to understand, interrupt, and change patterns
The BREATH Journal, with weekly prompts to deepen learning between sessions
A peer witness paired with you in Week 1 to reflect your growth and keep you honest
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I’m a content creator, health communicator, light worker and I’ve spent years amplifying voices the world tries to keep quiet, survivors, queer families, and communities pushed to the margins. I grew up a closeted gay kid in small-town Texas, where I learned early that being fully myself would cost me something. I spent decades editing myself for rooms that were never built for me, then spent even longer learning how to stop.
Millions of people have connected with my work on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook because I say the things most people step around. This book is what I built once I stopped looking away, from the injustice in the world and from myself.


I’m a content creator, health communicator, light worker and I’ve spent years amplifying voices the world tries to keep quiet, survivors, queer families, and communities pushed to the margins. I grew up a closeted gay kid in small-town Texas, where I learned early that being fully myself would cost me something. I spent decades editing myself for rooms that were never built for me, then spent even longer learning how to stop.
Millions of people have connected with my work on TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook because I say the things most people step around. This book is what I built once I stopped looking away, from the injustice in the world and from myself.
We’re not done while survivors are still being doubted and people are still being hurt in plain sight. Order the book and claim your 25% off the cohort to take your first real step from feeling to action.
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