A NEW WORK BY MATT BREWER
Are We Done Yet?
Turn the empathy that keeps you up at night into the action that lets you sleep again. This is the book for people who are done being bystanders and watching injustice.
You Know The World Around Us Is On Fire
Survivors come forward and are told they are lying. Queer families are treated like a political position instead of people. Trans kids are debated like a hypothesis and immigrants are sorted into useful and disposable. The same cruelty keeps repeating itself and headlines move on before anyone is held to account. You see casual contempt get normalized at workplaces, dinner tables and comment sections. Then you go to bed every night thinking: I should be doing more, I should have said something.
Can I even do anything to stop all of this?
Yes you can.
This book gives you the framework, language and the daily practice to stop reading the headlines and become the person who changes what the next headline says.
For People Who Can’t Look Away From Cruelty And Injustice
Are We Done Yet? is for you if:
- You care deeply about queer communities, survivors, immigrants or anyone who has been pushed to the margins
- You lead, raise, mentor, or manage people and are responsible for creating safe spaces for others
- You've had experiences watching someone get hurt in plain sight and spent weeks thinking of what you could’ve said or done
- You’re reeling from a tumultuous period such as coming out, divorce, loss or any moment that changed how you see the world
- You learned early that being fully yourself would cost you something so you’ve been editing and changing your authentic self
Stop Watching The Fire And Start Learning To Be The Light
For most of my life, I knew exactly who I was supposed to be and spent every day performing to be more acceptable. I learned in small-town Texas that being a male cheerleader got you called slurs, so I became the mascot. I learned in a green room in San Antonio that there were rooms I would never be able to enter. In a hospital room in 2022, watching my mother's dignity get stripped away, I learned that looking away from injustice has a cost. Are We Done Yet? is the book I built from 40 years of closing the gap between what I believed and how I lived. It gives you the framework, language, and practical tools to stop absorbing pain and start turning it into something useful.
Become The Evidence Of Change The World Has Been Waiting For
Be The Person People Open Up To
Master the power of listening and learn the single question that will transform every hard conversation you will ever have
Care Without Combusting
Develop the practice that lets you witness the world and engage with hard truths without letting it drain or consume you.
Build Safe Spaces People Can Actually Trust
Learn how safety is built in tone, pauses and responses, and master the small moves that signal you are worth telling the truth to.
Transform Difficult Relationships
Trade the question “what is wrong with them?” for “what might they have lived through?”
Turn What You Feel Into What You Do
Use the six-step BREATH practice to turn your feelings into real action that impacts the lives of those around you.
“The world does not need more people who understand empathy. It needs more people who are the evidence of it, whose presence, in ordinary moments, demonstrates that a different way of moving through the world is not only possible, but practiced.”
— Matt Brewer, Are We Done Yet?
The Tools You Will Have To Turn Empathy Into Action
I designed every chapter to close the gap between knowing and living. Inside, you will find:
- A complete framework for action with the BREATH Process
- Reflection exercises at the end of every chapter
- Practical tools and language for the conversations you have been avoiding
- Honest personal stories, including the moments I got it wrong
- A complete arc that takes you from recognizing the problem to becoming someone whose presence changes the rooms they walk into
Close The Gap Between What You Believe And How You Live
Stop watching as a bystander and start bringing change.
Are We Done Yet?
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